Saturday, February 15, 2014

and here we are, yet again

9/21/2002

do not kill the kid. do not kill the kid. do not kill the kid.

we have a few house rules...
no disappearing without an adult knowing where you'll be. (no giving messages to child alters!)
no dating until the age of 16
any boy who wants to *go with* a daughter (we'll hold our boys to this too) must meet both parents.
no being alone with a member of the opposite sex before age 16.

kristen's life as she now knows it, is over. she is fervently praying that her father is calmer than we were when he gets home.

granted, our emotional reaction has a LOT to do with our own experiences and the fact that much of *that* part of our life has not yet been approached. with that in mind, playing with fire is still playing with fire. it starts with the very innocent hand holding and just keeps going. once you have reached a point with one person, you won't think twice about doing it with another until eventually, you are doing things either thinking 'what happens to others won't happen to me' or caving to peer/boyfriend pressure.

just because i was held down in the back seat of a car and raped by my best friend, doesn't mean it will happen to kristen. just because 3 of 4 female cousins on one side of the family got pregnant before 17 doesn't mean it will happen to kristen. HOWEVER, if she doesn't take the steps that will get her into the back seat of a car (or wherever) to start with, it's far less likely to be an option. no, we can't protect her from, say a random act, but we CAN protect her, even if only a little, from the STUPIDITY induced by hormones and physical stimuli.

no offense to all our teenaged friends but THIS WAS NOT SOMETHING THE FRIGGIN PARENTING BOOKS COVERED AND IF CHILDREN WERE BORN TEENAGERS HUMANITY WOULD HAVE DIED OUT THOUSANDS OF YEARS AGO!

that's it. i'm taking carol burnett's advice. they're all just going into a medically induced coma at 13 then taken to a deserted island and released back into the wild at 21...